Did you know that blended families are becoming more common than ever? As we go through changes in life, our families change, too. When you create a new family, you’ve got a decision to make. You can either accept the “status quo” of what a blended family should be or you can make it whatever you want it be. In this blog, I’ll give you some tips on how to make your blended family beautiful!
Now, I’m sure you think I’m crazy for saying that your blended family can be beautiful. Believe me, I thought it was impossible too at one time. But then I got to thinking, where did this idea come from? Why can’t my blended family be the family I always wanted? This led me to the first tip.
Tip #1: Stop putting your family in a box!
Negative thoughts toward your loved ones will keep you from creating the family you want. The moment you believe that your family can be anything you want it to be, you’re going in the right direction. Start by focusing on your family’s strengths instead of comparing yourself to “happy” families.
What are a few things that you like about your family? Now, when you come home from work, reflect on the positive the moment you walk through the door. Also, say good things about your family, and believe them, when you talk to other people. Trust me, your family will thank you for it!
Tip #2: Listen to your emotions
Now it’s time to get real! How many times have you tried to “think happy thoughts” when you wanted to rip your hair out? When it comes to your family, I bet it’s a bunch. So, if you want to have a beautiful blended family, you’ll need to listen to your real emotions. What exactly does that mean? When your family is driving you crazy, don’t bypass these emotions. Believe me, it’ll only make things worse.
The best way to handle stressful emotions is to acknowledge them, but not use them against your family. If a situation is making you upset, walk away, collect your thoughts and process through your emotions before you address your family. It will make all the difference.
Tip #3: Creating blended family bliss doesn’t mean you’re perfect
Perfection is way overrated! And really hard to keep up with. Don’t put your family through the ringer to make them live up to some unfair expectation. Instead, redefine the way you look at the word “perfect.” What do you feel your family can improve on? Is this a fair observation? These types of questions can help you make your family stronger without putting pressure on them. And that is the most important thing. A happy, healthy blended family comes from managing your expectations, while allowing your family to grow.
So there you have it! A blended family bliss is within your reach. All you have to do is respect yourself, your emotions, and stop believing that everyone in your family has to be perfect. Your family is your family and no one else’s. Make it whatever you want it to be!