Disclaimer: This is not written to back BioMoms. This is the feeling created when there is a toxic relationship between Stepmoms and Biomoms. Not all Biomoms are toxic nor are all Stepmoms are evil.
Dear BioMOM,
Please hear me out. I feel like it is time you acknowledge my side of the story. Just like you, I never thought I would end up where I am. When I played house with my friends as a little kid, I never asked to be the stepmom. I never even dreamt of assuming the role I have to play now, but life is full of surprises and it takes us down roads we never thought we would go.
Trust me, I spent countless sleepless nights wondering if what I was doing was right. Wondering if I could handle having to raise stepchildren. Don’t get me wrong, they have turned out to be one of the biggest blessings in my life, but to be honest, I was very scared of what was coming. Nonetheless, I went through with it.
Why did you do it? You may ask yourself, I get that question all the time and all I can say is love made me do it. When I met my now husband, your ex, he had separated from you. There was no cheating involved. I was never the other women. I respect myself, and I would have respected yourself enough, too.
The man was free, and he was pursuing me. He was sweet, he was attractive and he had so many good qualities. No matter how many times I wrote that pros and cons list, the pros were always too many. So, I gave it a shot.
I have been through a lot to be where I am and I know that so have you. Your life has changed, but so has mine and somehow you only focus on how hard YOU have it. But what about me? Why does it feel like you’re always out to get me? I know life is not fair, but sometimes this little thing you have for me is exhausting.
Unfortunately, we’re in this together. We will have to be present in each other’s lives one way or another, whether we like it or not and whether we accept it or not. So I am offering you a truce.
Know that I am not trying to replace you and that your kids will always love you and respect you even when they are at our house or with us.
My wish is for each of us to have their time and space without having to badmouth each other, so please, think about it…
I hope you can understand, I did not steal your husband, nor did I steal your family…
Awesome stepmoms, this is the first of our series of Letters to a BioMom, we hope you enjoy and please remember, sharing is caring!
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