Disclaimer: This is not written to back BioMoms. This is the feeling created when there is a toxic relationship between Stepmoms and Biomoms. Not all Biomoms are toxic nor are all Stepmoms are evil.
Dear Biomom,
I appreciate the advice, but this is my house and I’ll set the rules. Please don’t use the kids to get to me, or try to slide a sly comment when you talk on the phone with my husband about how you would’ve done things differently.
This is my household and that is something you have to accept. You can’t show up uninvited, and you can’t expect us to take care of the kids in days you were supposed to. We have plans and as much as we love them, we also love having some alone time.
You can’t impose your rules in here. That’s what your house is for. You have to respect our parenting style. Of course, we can come to certain agreements like bedtime because that helps the kids have some structure. Diet we can also agree on. There are just some things that I am more flexible with or that you are more flexible with.
I don’t care if you don’t approve of the color of the dining room. I don’t care if you think my decorations are tacky and tasteless, or if you think we splurged on our kitchen appliances. The bottom line is this is my house and you don’t get a say on it. You do get to make sure that our actions are in the best interest and well being of your child and I will always respect that line of thinking.
Otherwise, if you have nothing nice to say, I rather you not say anything at all.