Hi, Awesome Stepmom!
Today we’re gonna talk about the 3 things you should stop doing to be a good stepmom. Notice I did not say better or great. We often think we should do more, but we never realize how many things we should stop doing because they only bring us down and don’t add any value whatsoever to our lives.
Stop letting others put your role as a stepmom in a box. You are not just a woman he married.
1. Stop putting the pressure of your husband’s strained relationship, conflictive relationship, or superficial relationship with his kids on yourself.
Truth is, even though you might play a factor in this, it is impossible to pin it solely on you. Maybe they never had a strong relationship to begin with. Maybe he does not put enough effort to be there the way you think he should show up for you. If that is the case, you should talk to him, but please, stop blaming yourself for something that is not true.
2. Stop letting others put your role as a stepmom in a box (You are not just a woman he married).
This is true for everyone - not only for stepmoms. You can’t let anyone box you up or stereotype you, because you end up trying to live up to their expectations and trying to please everyone but you. Live for yourself, do no wrong onto others, keep a moral compass and you should be fine.
3. Stop ignoring your needs as a stepmom. You MATTER (It is called a blended family and you are a part of that blend)!
If you worry about everyone else but you, you are going to end up exhausted, drained, and with nothing else to give. The principle is very easy. To give, you must have something to share with others, and if you don’t respect and nurture yourself, you won’t have anything to give.
