Secret number one is a no-brainer: you come first. Yes, that’s right. YOU COME FIRST.
Reality check: the vast majority of the stepmoms that I work with are not the evil Cinderella type of stepmom. They’re selfless and devoted women who work hard every day to try to make their family work. I applaud all of you for that because I do it myself. However, through the years, I discovered something very important. You can’t give yourself if you don’t have yourself. Right now, you are probably thinking “Whoa. What is she even talking about?” well let me tell you something, I do have a point and you’ll see it in a few.
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Let’s take a river for example. Back in the day, people used to go to rivers to get fresh water, because it was a fountain of that precious liquid. Now sometimes, the river has a big stream and is able to provide us with the precious liquid. Other times, because of various different climatic circumstances such as a drought, people had to look for other places to get their water.
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Well, in that same way, our stepkids, our spouses and the people in our lives tend to look to us to get that love, that support, and that care. But how can we give it to them if we don’t give it to ourselves? How can there be words of kindness in our mouths when we treat ourselves so badly? I can’t help but stress how incredibly important it is to love thyself.
Master this first secret and I promise you everything in your life will start changing. For more blogs on self-love and self-care click HERE.
