We have all fallen in this negative loop where you do something in hopes of bettering a situation, and you actually achieve what you wanted. However, the situation still isn’t better, so you feel frustrated and angry at the other person and yourself.
Will the example hit closer to home if I told you I’ve had these expectations around the Biomom? Yeah, you heard me—the Biomom. Sometimes I’ve wished she would recognize the good things I’ve done with her kids, whether it was taking them to a football or volleyball practice or helping them out with math or science.
Why do we have these kind of feelings? It is hard to explain, but sometimes we feel as though a thank you is owed to us. In reality, we are not entitled to anything. We have to let go of these false expectations because they’ll only make us end up feeling empty.
Easier said than done has never been a more accurate phrase, but one of my favorite techniques to beat these sneaky thoughts is to just breathe. Breathing plays such an important role in our mood, so when you feel your anger escalating, just breathe. Take deep breaths and then exhale for a long period. This will trigger a signal in your brain to calm down.
At the end of the day, remember the only praise and recognition you really need are the ones you give to yourself. The validation you give yourself is the most important one.
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